Saved by Your Dreams

“I’m a dreamer. I have to dream and reach for the stars,

and if I miss a star then I grab a handful of clouds.” – Mike Tyson

Anyone can make a list of things they’d like to have “someday”, or push play on the self-help video, or even read a book like this. That’s doesn’t require any persistence. But when you are laughed at, when you are told that you aren’t going to make it, the only things that are going to save you are your dreams and goals. If you don’t have a time-stamped dream – a concrete goal – you’re done for. When the first sign of difficulty comes along, you’re going to quit. But if the goal is more important than anyone else’s opinion, you’ll show up and keep showing up.

People who get into the habit of dreaming big will accomplish their goals because they have the right mindset. You need to look at life with the perspective that you can achieve anything. If you can accomplish big dreams, why wouldn’t you go after them? Why would you want to settle for small dreams?

Here are some reasons to be a big dreamer:

You’ll Be Open to Possibilities
When you dream big, you open many doors. You’ll encounter a good amount of excitement as you go about life because you’ll be in adventurous and unpredictable situations. This is because big dreams push your limits and keep your life fresh. Who wouldn’t want a life filled with excitement?

You’ll Achieve More
When you dream big, you’ll achieve great things. You may even end up achieving more than you ever thought you could. For example, you might be at a crossroads where you’re considering whether or not to get a job in a certain field, or start a business in that same field. The job is a safe bet with a likely limited salary. The business is the “big dream” that can provide fulfillment and not just in the salary potential. You’ll be personally fulfilled and you’ll achieve more for your hard work.

It’s the Right Thing to Do for the World
Big dreams are the reasons why the world changes for the better. It’s the reason why there have been so many great inventions, cures for diseases, etc. Big dreams give you the opportunity to truly leave your mark on the world.

“All men dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake up in the day to find it was vanity, but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dreams with open eyes, to make it possible.” ― T. E. Lawrence, Seven Pillars of Wisdom: A Triumph

It’s All In How You Look At It

“A little perspective, like a little humor,

goes a long way.” – Allen Klien

Let’s say that someone has a 40-hour work week at a job that they enjoy, but they have a goal to get a brand new Ford Escape. They don’t have the money to get it, but they really want one. So they flip a switch and ask themselves, what can I do to earn more money? Maybe they can get a part-time job. Maybe they have a skill they can use. Whatever it is, once they flip that switch, they realize that they can physically do more than they have previously given themselves credit for. They don’t have to just settle for the income their job provides.

If you’re looking for a way to get to your vacation destination, and you usually take a plane, do you even consider a train or boat? Yes, there will be places a train or boat cannot go, but the point remains the same. If you already have something in mind, the other possibilities fade into the background. If we focus on solving the problem, rather than on one specific part of it, it will be easier to get to a solution that solves the whole problem, and to achieve our end goal.

Changing the way in which you look at things can bring clarity and aid in the discovery of new options. It can help you discard old habits which no longer serve you, and it can help you make better observations from your new perspective. Norman Vincent Peale said, “Change your thoughts and you change your world.”

The Keys to the Power of the Mind

There are two keys to tapping into the power of the mind that we have found to be absolutely essential.

The first is you must be willing to listen.

If we had not been willing to listen when people brought the Ambit business to us, we wouldn’t be where we are today. We had to put aside our own ideas and listen with an open mind. Most of us don’t really listen very well. Or if we do manage to listen, we are often just waiting until the other person finishes so that we can say what is on our mind…and that’s not really listening. When we listen, we allow the creative fountain to start up.

The second is to surround yourself with positive people.

There’s an old saying, “water seeks its own level.” Well, the same is true of thoughts. If you are with people who are negative all the time, you are going to be negative. This is why it is so important to surround yourself with positive people. These are people who will inspire you to be a better person, provide you with motivation to achieve your goals, empower you to make the changes you need to succeed and cheer on your success.

By taking the time to listen and surrounding yourself with positive people, your mind will start to be in the right place for success.

Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any one thing.” – Abraham Lincoln

Know What You Want

There Is Nothing More Powerful
Than The Made-Up Mind.

This is so important that we want to say it again: There is nothing, absolutely nothing, more powerful than the made-up mind. When you make up your mind to do something and you believe completely in yourself, nothing can stop you. That being said, you can’t make up your mind if you don’t even know what you want.

If you don’t want to spend your life wandering aimlessly, you can use the following 7 tips to find out exactly what you want in life.

Be Selfish
How are you going to have time to figure out what you want if you are spending all your time getting other people what they want. You have to put yourself first. Ask yourself: If you weren’t tied down by your job, family, friends, or anything else, what would you be doing right now? Remember that it’s not a crime to put yourself first, because you are the only person who can.

Regret Nothing
Don’t feel bad for being selfish! You only have one life and it is up to you to live it the way you want to. If you constantly regret things you did or didn’t do in the past, then you won’t be able to move forward.

Figure Out What You Need
Sometimes we are so busy in the rush of daily life that it is hard for us to figure out what we need. Take time to sit down and think about what you need most. Is it your family, the freedom to express yourself, love, financial security, or something else? Think about the kind of legacy you want to leave behind.

Figure Out What Bothers You
You can soar only by pushing back against something you don’t want. Figure out what upsets you, and be specific about it. Don’t just say that you hate your office job. Pinpoint exactly why you hate it. Is it your micromanaging boss, your workload, your meaningless job title, or all of the above? What bothers you, and how can you fix it?

Pinpoint What Makes You Happy
Our happiness is the root of our desires, so take a few moments to really think about what makes you happy. Is it traveling, being around children, owning a successful business, your significant other, financial freedom? Once you figure out the one thing that makes you happiest, you’ll have a better idea of what you should strive for in your life.

Share Your Vision
If you tell people what you’re trying to accomplish, they will most likely support you and give you new ideas.

Stay Positive
Life doesn’t always go according to plan. Instead of freaking out, try your best to roll with the punches. You will get there someday. You’re just taking a little detour. Sometimes a positive attitude is all you need to keep going.

“It is the power of the mind to be unconquerable.” – Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Why Make a Vision Board?

“I can teach anybody how to get what they want out of life. The problem is that I can’t find anybody who can tell me what they want.” — Mark Twain

Do you know what you want in your life? Do you know how to get what you want? Consider using a vision board. A Vision Board serves three important purposes: first, it clarifies your dreams; second, it reinforces those dreams by making them visible; and third, it focuses your mind on those dreams on a daily basis.

A Vision Board Provides Clarity

If you say your goal is to “have a better life”, that is a good start, but you must CLARIFY what that means to you. To some, it may mean buying a new car; to others, it might mean making more money to support their family. You have to be clear about what you want to achieve.

A Vision Board Gives You Positive Affirmations

Once you dream it, the next step is to believe it. In addition to images, vision boards can include words, phrases or sentences that affirm your intentions. These affirmations cast away your doubts and the self-limiting beliefs you have, and put your mind in the right place for success.

Here are some examples of positive affirmations your vision board may include:

  • “I am financially free.”
  • “I will stay healthy.”
  • “Great opportunity is in store for me.”

A Vision Board Helps Maintain Focus

Finally, vision boards serve to help you stay focused. It isn’t difficult to start each day with a positive attitude – until you get out of bed. No matter what happens during your day, your vision board is a constant reminder of where you intend to be.

 The Story of the Two Wolves

Each Day, We Have Both Favorable
And Unfavorable Experiences.

We are faced with the choice to give in to anger, or exercise restraint and focus on peace. It isn’t always easy, but perhaps this story can put it into a better perspective:

One day, a young boy came to his Grandfather, filled with anger at another boy who had done him an injustice. The wise old man said to his grandson, “Let me tell you a story. I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those who have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do. But hate wears you down, and hate does not hurt your enemy. Hate is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times.

“It is as if there are two wolves inside me; one wolf is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him and does not take offense when no offense is intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way. But the other wolf is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of rage.

“He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger, because his anger will change nothing. Sometimes it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, because both of the wolves try to dominate my spirit.”

The boy looked intently into his Grandfather’s eyes and asked, “Which wolf will win, Grandfather?”

The Grandfather smiled and said, “The one I feed.”

When you have an unfavorable experience, if you choose to feed the good, then you will grow as a person and gain the ability to change your circumstances. However, if you feed the bad, it will eat you from the inside out and cause you to lose focus on the bigger picture, which will prevent positive progress. So now you must ask yourself, “Which wolf am I feeding today?”

 

The Importance of Helping Others

“You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want.” – Zig Ziglar

The most important part of learning to dream is to learn to dream big. That means seeing beyond the circumstances of the moment. It means asking yourself, “What would my life be like if…?”

If your dream of having more is just for you, it’s probably going to be hard – if not impossible – to achieve. You have to want more for other people as well as for yourself. Your dreams have to be big enough to include the good of other people. Most of all, it means thinking about how you can help other people achieve their dreams because as you help others achieve their dreams, you can’t help but achieve your own as well.

Here are three ways helping others can benefit you:

  1. Helping Others Is Part of What Makes You a Leader. Helping one another is part of life and a fundamental element of being a successful leader and cultivating a productive, efficient workforce. A leader is someone who is willing to teach and help others advance, learn from others and also showcase their own skills and talents.
  2. You Are Making a Difference. When you willingly help someone, you are making your network active, which can lead to more professional opportunities for yourself. Looking for ways to help those within your network sends a message and sets the tone for what a connection with you entails, making your network more likely to help you out down the road.
  3. It Gives You an Opportunity to Learn and Grow Professionally. Every professional interaction brings personal and professional growth, whether it’s furthering your problem-solving skills, communication tactics or leadership expertise. Helping others succeed proves you are a team player, which is an important quality to possess if you want to climb that corporate ladder.

Keep your eyes open for opportunities to support and help others along the path to success. This can range from being deeply involved by becoming a mentor, to simply telling someone that you love their idea, or that you believe in them. Helping others will not only give back, but it will expand your own network, and that is never a bad thing!

Creating S.M.A.R.T Goals

“The victory of success is half won when one gains the habit of setting and achieving goals.” – Og Mandino

One of our mentors explained to us that goals need to be S.M.A.R.T. That is, they need to be Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Stamped; we personally feel that that last one is the most important because a goal that isn’t time-stamped is merely a dream that will never become a reality, and more often than not, that dream becomes a nightmare.

Your goals must be SPECIFIC. What do you want to achieve? For example, setting a goal of “making more money” isn’t very specific. It’s a very general goal. You must define how much more money you want to make in order to transform the goal from general to specific.

When we say a goal must be MEASURABLE, it means the goal must be able to be measured in some way. It should be quantifiable. If we are going by the above example, let’s say you set a specific goal to make $10,000 more a year. The next step is to decide how you are going to achieve that specific amount and how you are going to measure your progress.

The difference in most people’s dreams versus their goals is that goals are ATTAINABLE. It is important that your goals be achievable and realistic. It’s great to stretch yourself, but you don’t want to constantly disappoint yourself by setting unrealistic goals.

When setting goals, they should be RELETIVE to your path in life. If your chosen path is to become a surgeon, setting a goal to go to cooking school in Italy is not relative to your path. However, if your path is to retire and open a restaurant, then maybe cooking school is relative. Relativity is important to staying focused on what will ultimately propel you closer to what you really care about.

Finally, your goals must be TIME-STAMPED. Like we said before, without a time stamp a goal is just a dream. Goals must have a set time in which they should be achieved. This not only increases the urgency and importance of the goal, but it forces you to commit to it.

Forgetting the Power of Dreams

“To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” –Anatole France

It’s not that we lose the ability to dream. It’s that we forget the power of our dreams. We begin to forget what it’s like to wake up in the morning, excited about the day. We begin to settle for the average, the everyday, the ordinary. We stop seeing the world as filled with hope and potential. It’s as if we put on sunglasses and turn off the lights and then wonder why the world is so dark.

The reasons why we stop dreaming aren’t all that hard to understand. Sometimes we don’t dream because of the lessons we learned from our parents. Many of us have parents who unintentionally taught us to stop dreaming.

There are a number of reasons to follow your dreams, to break the trend, and to live the life you’ve always wanted – here are a few:

They make life worth living.

Your dreams are what can get you through even the worst days. If you are struggling, your dreams are your reasons to keep going.

You can be an inspiration to others.

If you decide to go and follow your dreams, you will give hope to others who want to do the same. You can serve as their example and their reason why they should give it a try.

It will make YOU proud.

Even better than making your parents proud, you will be proud of yourself! Your confidence will rise, and you’ll enjoy the excitement and the adrenaline that comes with doing something you’ve always wanted to do.

You only live once.

Life is short. Our days are numbered, so why spend them doing something we don’t love? It’s time to make a decision to go for it!