“It’s always too early to quit.”–Norman Vincent Peale
Quitting is automatic failure. This is not said to be negative; it is simply a fact. You cannot succeed if you quit, and the definition of “not succeeding” is failure. When you quit, you have automatically failed, so quitting should never be an option. If you finish later or your dreams take longer to achieve, that is not failure; but stopping your progress toward them is. You cannot be a failure if you choose to keep moving, no matter how slowly you go!
I have to remind you that you choose to quit just like you choose to go on. How hard is it to continue? Sometimes it seems impossible but it is not. It all starts in your mind. “I do not choose to give up.” When you say that to yourself, you have taken the first and most important step to success. It honestly does not matter if you can see your way ahead clearly or not; the fact that you choose to continue will, in and of itself, open the doors you need to move forward.
It is also important to remember that this can be a frustrating process. I believe the reason most people quit is not because they lack the strength to continue but they lack the stamina to deal with constant frustration. We all have days where everything goes wrong. There are moments when it does not seem worth it to continue. If that is the case, why not give up? Because giving up, like succeeding, becomes a habit. What we do every day is what our life becomes. Is your life a picture of giving up or of moving toward success?
If you have a bad day, allow yourself to feel frustrated. Many of us have a bad habit of acting as if nothing ever bothers us. Let things bother you. Admit that you are frustrated. Give yourself permission to feel that frustration, then relax and let go of it. Now, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move ahead. You will soon leave the frustration behind and be on your way once more to your goal!
The Power Of The Made-Up Mind
In fact, as I point out in my book, there is nothing that is more powerful than a made-up mind! When you believe in yourself and you make up your mind to do something, there is nothing that can stop you. You are your most powerful when you truly put your mind to accomplishing a goal.
Knowing this, why would anyone ever settle for less than a made-up mind? You do not have to settle; instead, make a resolution now that you will control your thoughts and therefore succeed at the things you want to do. It is important to understand that you have control over your thoughts, so you control your result. Let that sink in for a moment: the results you experience are a direct result of your thoughts, and your thoughts are a direct result of your decisions. Therefore, your experiences are a result of your decisions. You are in control, so use that control!
James Allen may have said it best: “In your hands will be placed the exact results of your thoughts; you will receive that which you earn, no more, no less. Whatever your present environment may be, you will fail, remain, or rise with your thoughts, your wisdom, desire, as great as your dominant aspiration.” These are powerful words. You control your environment and your outcomes. You alone are responsible for what happens to you, good or bad. Your failure or success can all be traced back to your own actions, and those are a direct result of your thoughts.
Once you truly understand this, you can begin to manage your thoughts more effectively and gain the success that you want in everything that is important to you. When you begin to think you are failing, change your thoughts! Think about ways you can succeed, and you will begin to succeed. This powerful tool will serve you in every area of your life, from your relationships to your work to your education. No matter what you choose to do, when you make up your mind to succeed, you will!
Many Of Us Have Lost Our Ability To Dream.
The daily grind, disappointments and the realities of life intrude to the point that it may have been years since you sat down and just daydreamed about something you wanted. You must dream, however, if you want to make serious changes in your life.
There is a very simple reason for this. If you do not allow yourself to dream, you are closed to possibilities. That is what dreams are, after all: possibilities. In a dream, you can be or do anything you want. It is your brain’s way of showing you possible alternative futures for yourself. When you dream, you give yourself permission to explore those possibilities in a safe way. Dreams are not commitments; they are simply visual tours of the future as it would exist if you take a certain course of action.
Think about how you dreamed as a child. Did you tell yourself that your dreams were not realistic and could not happen? Did you argue with yourself that you were wasting time thinking about things that could not happen? No, of course not. As a child, you simple dreamed whatever it was you wanted and enjoyed yourself thinking about the possibilities for the future. When did you lose that ability? If you really want to change your life, you have to recover it and dream once again as you did as a child. As I say in my book, “The day you stop dreaming is the day you start dying.”
What is it that you really want? I do not mean what you have taught yourself to want; I mean the true dreams that you may have buried years ago in “can’t” and “shouldn’t” and “won’t.” What have you decided you cannot have? What have you left out of your life that could bring you satisfaction and happiness and might be yours if you were willing to do the work to achieve it? Whatever it is, resurrect it, dust it off and give it another look. Learn to dream again, and you will find that your life is changing in many positive ways!
Everyone Tells You To “Follow Your Dreams.”
What some fail to tell you, is that following your dreams may mean making some sacrifices. When you decide to pursue a dream, it will mean hard work and it may mean giving up some things that you currently like. When I decided to pursue my dreams of financial freedom, I found that my time was severely constrained in some cases. I had to give up free time and fun activities, but I could see the “big picture.” I knew that the sacrifices I made today would pay off tomorrow. One day, I would have the time and freedom that I lacked today.
Jim Rohn says, “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” Even people who mean well and have the best intentions for us are not in charge of our lives. What someone else wants for us may not be what we want for ourselves. We must be in charge of our own destinies and take responsibility for our dreams. We cannot wait for someone else to do so.
While it is fun to dream, it is hard work to pursue those dreams. If you are going to go after a dream, you better have some stamina! Remember, it is a marathon and not a sprint. Another way to look at this is that we become what we do habitually. Even if we stumble from time to time, if we continue to move ahead at a steady pace, we reach our goals. That means that we have to change something that we are doing in order to have a different outcome. When pursuing our dreams, that means we have to make changes in the way we do things so that we are moving closer to our goals.
What are you doing to bring yourself closer to your dreams? What are you changing in your life that will allow you to achieve your goals? Are you putting in the hard work that is sometimes necessary to change your habits and reach the outcomes you have set for yourself?
You Never Know What Is Going To Happen.
What starts out as an ordinary day may be the beginning of a whole new phase of your life. You may bump into a stranger who turns out to be your soulmate, or you may be plunged into a whirlwind adventure that will leave you breathless! The problem with trying to connect the dots is that you can only do it in hindsight!
Steve Jobs says, “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something–your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.” When you learn that connecting the dots is impossible to do in advance, you learn to trust in other things to move you forward. You simply cannot foretell the future, and despite what you may hear, no one really can. Therefore, you must have something else to guide you, and that thing is called “faith.”
For some, faith means religion. However, faith is not just religious. Even those who are not religious are likely to have faith in something, whether it is themselves and their decision-making ability, the advice of a trusted friend or just the waves of the universe. In its purest form, faith simply means that you believe that things will work out as they were meant to.
When I met my husband, I was not expecting to be swept off my feet. In fact, I was not expecting to meet my soulmate at all! However, that is exactly what happened and it is exactly what was meant to happen. I was meant to meet the man that became my husband on that day. Who knows what your destiny has in store for you today? Instead of meeting unexpected events with disappointment or frustration, try taking a wondering approach. Was this the universe speaking to you? Are you mean to be exactly where you are right now for a reason?
Most Of Us Are Taught From An Early Age
To Control Our Words And Our Actions.
Not Many of us ever give much thought to controlling our thoughts. However, thoughts are the genesis of all words and actions, so it makes sense to start by controlling our thoughts. When we do that, our words and actions will follow.
My advice is to start thinking about what you want rather than what you do not want. When you focus on a positive rather than a negative, your mind begins to work toward solutions rather than problems and to come up with ways to approach a situation even when you are not aware of what is going on in your brain’s “basement.” Your mind works constantly and if you flood it with positive images, it will work toward those things rather than toward the status quo.
The Law of Attraction states that we attract things to us through our attitude and thoughts. When we put this Law to work for us, we embrace the idea that our thoughts control our outcomes. As Rhonda Byrne says in The Secret, “See the things you want as already yours.” In other words, what you think about, comes about!
You can put this powerful idea to work for you in your everyday life simply by changing the way you think about things. If you want to control positive outcomes, take control of your thoughts and make them positive. Visualize the final outcome you want: is it a healthier body? More money? A better relationship? Think about what that would look like. It may help to create a visual on which you can focus, such as a picture that represents your goal, but you can do this completely with your mind if you choose. Remember that when you control your thoughts, you control your actions, and your actions determine what will happen. Soon, as you focus on positive outcomes, you will find that good things are beginning to happen in your life. Ultimately, your positive viewpoint will rub off on reality and you will achieve the things you want!
Many People Do Not Understand
The Power Of Gratitude.
Gratitude makes a huge difference in every aspect of your life and changes everything about every situation. Meister Eckhart said, “If the only prayer you said was thank you, that would be enough.”
Gratitude does far more than express thanks for material blessings. Gratitude actually changes our entire attitude toward life itself and our role in it. If you think about it, most of the problems we experience can be traced back to some form of ingratitude. If you are experiencing relationship difficulties, perhaps it is because you have forgotten to be thankful for all the joy someone has brought into your life. If you are experiencing financial trouble, perhaps it is because you are failing to be grateful for the things you already have and are seeking after more and more “stuff.” If you are struggling with feelings of worthlessness or low self-esteem, perhaps you have forgotten to be grateful for the miracle that is you!
Gratitude changes everything about your mindset. When we are grateful it is impossible to feel petty and jealous. We stop focusing on what other people have and instead focus on our own lives and how rich they are. We take the time to bless the moment rather than living in the past or the future.
Sometimes it may seem difficult to be grateful for what we have. It may seem that we have trouble and strife instead of peace and contentment. However, when you take a moment to stop and really think about what you are blessed with, it becomes much easier to be grateful. Are you alive? Are you fed? Do you have clothing on your back? Do you have a roof over your head? If so, you are much better off than many people around the world. Start there and add in the things that make your life extra-special, like the love of your children or spouse. You have much to be thankful for!
Never forget to be grateful. Your grateful attitude may be the difference between sorrow or discontent and a happy, joyful life!
I have come to understand through the many experiences of my life that it is only when you are passionate about something that your good qualities begin to show themselves.
When your passions keep you awake at night and force you to strive to do better every day, you can accomplish great things. We are what we believe we are, in the end; or, as Earl Nightingale put it, “We become what we think about most of the time, and that’s the strangest secret.”
This means that no matter your age or what your previous experiences, you can do anything you decide to do when you set your mind to it. If you have the drive and the passion to accomplish something, it can be done. You are empowered to set your goals and achieve them by the things you really care about. It really is all in the mind, and what you think about and believe you can do, you will eventually do.
What does this mean in practical terms? It means that if you want to do something, you have to be passionate about doing it. In fact, if you are not passionate about it, I would advise you to try something else, because there is a good chance you will fail if your heart is not in it. Failure, like success, is self-perpetuating. When you give a halfhearted attempt at something and fail, you are teaching yourself that you cannot accomplish your goals.
However, when you put your heart and soul into something and succeed, you are teaching yourself that you can accomplish great things! Success is its own reward, so when you do something successfully, you are more likely to do it again. Once you become successful many times, you get into the habit of succeeding. This habit generates even more success!
Remember, what you set your mind to become, you will become, and what you set your heart on accomplishing you will accomplish. When you utilize the power of positive thinking, you will be more successful and will accomplish greater things than you ever thought possible!
I Think One Of The Biggest Lies We Learn
Is That Life Is Made Up Of Tremendous,
Sweeping Moments Like Those In The Movies.
The fact is that life rarely contains pinnacle moments; if it did, we could never keep up the pace! We will all have a few unforgettable moments when things take on movie-like status, but life is actually made up of a series of very small, mundane moments and decisions that occur minute by minute.
Making the right decisions, therefore, is not a matter of the right decision at a pivotal moment but the right decision day by day and moment by moment. Most of us know the right decisions that we should be making; we simply allow ourselves to believe that the little decisions do not matter, so our behavior in this moment is not what will determine the course of our life. We believe that we can behave badly one moment but maintain good behavior the majority of the time and still be okay.
This attitude may work in some areas of life, but not when battling addiction. You see, what we have to fight against with addiction is a constant pressure by our own minds and bodies to slip back into that bad behavior. Even one bad choice can lead to a downward spiral. It is much easier not to give in than to try to recover from a slip-up, so we must guard our momentary actions each day to prevent backsliding.
Tavis Smiley says, “The choices we make about the lives we live determine the kinds of legacies we leave.” People are going to remember the simple things we did and the day-to-day actions we performed, not just our “big” moments. This is especially true for our families. What day-to-day actions are you leaving as memories with your spouse, your parents, your children and your siblings? Are they going to remember you for the good things you did every single day? They will if your daily routine consists of good choices.
Do not give up another minute of your life to poor choices. Resolve today to make the right choices every moment and every day.
Change Requires Action, But It Also
You must reach a point where you are not just willing to make a change but have committed yourself to the change. This means no more “I’ll do it tomorrow” or “I can allow myself to cheat a little bit.” It means that you are 100 percent committed every day to the change you want to see happen.
Jim Rohn says, “Your life does not get better by chance. It gets better by change.” Life is made up of a series of small changes that take us toward our goals or away from our goals. Even when we think we are maintaining the status quo, we are still going through change! The important thing is to determine if we are controlling the change or if the change is controlling us.
I can tell you that positive changes rarely happen by accident. It is up to us to take control of the changes and use them to move us toward our goal. For example, if you suffer from addiction, it is unlikely that the addiction will get better or be cured on its own. What is more likely is that you will continue on that path and even worsen in your behavior as time goes on; the habit will change, but not for the better. Unattended change, as we might call it, usually moves toward a worsening of a bad habit, not a bettering. That means that, unless you do something to affect a change in your life, it is unlikely that you will conquer your addiction by accident.
Change also requires daily commitment to your new lifestyle. If you simply try to change when you feel like it, you will never made a complete transformation. The fact is that there are going to be times when you do not feel like it and when it may be very difficult to maintain a change. Some days you may wonder why you are changing at all! However, maintaining your hard work and continuing your change is important. Only with consistent effort can you hope to truly change your behavior and become a better person.